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There are a number of thinking patterns that compromise Agility and collaboration. One of the more common is the need to be right.<\/p>\n

Think about it. How often do you find yourself in a conversation with someone that ends up going round and round in circles because the other person just won\u2019t listen ?<\/p>\n

You have done your homework, you are after all a professional and an expert, you have the answer and you know you are right.<\/p>\n

Anyone ?<\/p>\n

Being right is something we all live from! Who doesn\u2019t like being right ? It feels good! It is also rewarded! When my idea is used then I get noticed, my job is safe, I am adding value.<\/p>\n

What is the impact of being right ? [Ask the group, see what they have to input]<\/p>\n

For me to be right, you have to be wrong!<\/p>\n

What does that feel like ? I don\u2019t know about you, but the idea of being wrong publicly makes me more than anxious. It is a big deal. I will look incompetent, my ability to do my job will be compromised.<\/p>\n

Anyone see it differently ?<\/p>\n

When we try and ensure we are right we don\u2019t create a space where collaboration can exist. Being right is about one answer! It is about one person standing out and everyone else submitting to that right answer.<\/p>\n

When I am right I am also saying not only that you are wrong but I am also sending message that you aren\u2019t important, that what you know isn\u2019t valuable and in that kind of space people stop contributing.<\/p>\n

How much time did you spend yesterday being right ? What was the impact of that on flow ? Did it stop work from flowing ? Did it improve flow ? And what was the impact on the team and collaboration ?<\/p>\n

How much time did you spend worrying that it might turn out that you weren\u2019t right and now you look like a real idiot ?<\/p>\n

What if you were no more right than the person opposite you ? What if the real \u2018right\u2019 answer had elements of both your perspectives ?<\/p>\n

Next time you find yourself on the \u201cI am right, you are wrong\u201d band wagon take a moment and stop! Then instead of presenting your arguments, BE CURIOUS! Ask questions about the other person\u2019s perspective. What is it that they see that you do not ?<\/p>\n

Challenge Your Self!<\/h2>\n

Next time you feel yourself needing to be right, slow down. Take 4 deep breathes and let it go.<\/p>\n

Instead, be CURIOUS! Ask the other more about their point of view \u2013 not to find a way that they are wrong, but to find out more about what you may be missing from the picture.<\/p>\n

Practice this for the next week and take the time to observe your reactions and the impact your change in being has on the people around you.<\/p>\n

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